Trial, Error & Confidence

I had a pole practice last night with a few friends that was beyond amazing. It was challenging, rewarding and overall a lot of fun.

I can’t say our practices ever really follow a certain agenda, but there are common elements. We arrive, warm up, chat a bit about what we’re working on and try some new moves. These new moves and combos are normally taken from a video or picture we came across. Many of the moves, we have no idea how to get into, so we guess.

This can be pretty scary for most people. Since we’re guessing on how to even get into a pose, let alone how to hold it, there is a lot of trial, error and critique. One person tries, the others analyze and help move them.


In order to do this, you have to be pretty secure in your pole skills. It’s rare that we land the move on the first try. Many times we stumble, slip and fall. But confidence plays a pretty big role as well.

Knowing what your body is capable of and being confident in your skills goes a long way. When you’re adapting moves you already know, it’s not so bad. Chances are, you’ve bailed out of them enough times to know how to catch yourself from falling. It’s the grips you don’t know and the pain your forgot comes with new moves that can be a challenge.

Last night we tried to work on a cradle/superman rotation combo we found. It was beyond hard. Only two of us could really get into the first position, and even from there, it was scary and hurt like hell. We had to change hands in the middle of superman and then alternate sides – something neither of us hand done before.

After trying and trying and trying we didn’t get the move exactly, but we were able to switch grips and pull off a slightly decent combo. Below is a video of my combo after about 8 other tries. My inner thighs were on fire, my hands were slippery and I was winded. Sometimes we forget what a challenge pole dancing can be when you’re learning.

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The thing is, if you never try new moves you’ll never learn. You have to be confident in yourself, your skills and your quick thinking to improve. Many times, I forget how painful pole dancing can be when you’re learning. Leg hangs haven’t hurt me in years… until I started practicing on my secondary side, then it’s a whole new game. Falling itself would scare anyone, but I’m pretty confident in the majority of the moves we try, if I can’t pull off the move I will still be able to dismount safely – not gracefully, but safely.

Attempt at Titanic - I got both hands off, but it was definitely not a good hold

Attempt at Titanic – I got both hands off, but it was definitely not a good hold

So try new things! Experiment. Play. Enjoy. Pole dancing doesn’t have an end, you can always take your practice further. While new tricks seem daunting, achieving them is beyond rewarding. So much your fears away, trust yourself and try, fail and try some more.


Happy Dancing ๐Ÿ™‚