The Things You’d Never Thought You’d Do

How many times have you watched a pole performance and been genuinely wowed at what their bodies were capable of? How many times have you heard the words “I could never do that” or “I’d kill myself trying that” come out of your mouth?


The other day, a new student of mine performed her first ever pole seat. In the midst of holding on (what looked like for dear life!) she claimed “oh my god, I never thought I’d do this”. This lead me to ask the question if you came to learn pole dancing, how could you ever think that you wouldn’t do a seat? But she truly believed that she wouldn’t be able to do it.

And I think we’ve all been there. That point where you just feel like you’re not good enough and never will be to perform the trick. The point where the idea of “possible” flies out the window. But it is possible.

For those of you that know me, I prefer tricks over dancing. I’m not overly fluid with my movements and I by no means consider myself graceful but I am strong.

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When I watch pole videos, I truly believe that if I work hard enough at a certain trick, I’ll probably be able to do it ( although it does depend if the trick in question is something I really need to learn). I will be amazed by the dancers skill and technique but I don’t think the tricks are impossible.

I do think the dancing is.

There are countless times I have heard the words “I could never be that graceful” come out of my mouth. Or “I am way to klutzy for that one”. The way the dancers flow within their bodies is astounding to me.

Now, I also believe that the only way to improve is to do things you hate or normally don’t do. So into my workout regime it went “practicing being graceful”. That’s right, I sound like a crazy person but I have genuinely tried to simply dance and not work on tricks once per week during my practice.


I took a video of my freestyle the other day (click here to watch)… and was actually impressed. At first I thought it was terrible and never to be posted, but then I realized that while it may not be “competition astounding” I’ve improved quite a bit over the last couple of months. I didn’t second guess myself, I didn’t get flustered and stop, I just went with what my body wanted to do.. and it came out alright.

When ย I first started pole dancing, there are A LOT of things I’d never dream myself capable of pulling off (handsprings, ayeshas and shoulder mount to name a few). The moves weren’t even on my radar, I truly believed I was meant to just spin. Eventually, I tried them, and tried and possibly spent some more time on them, but I got there, and the result was worth it.

Illusion cheeba split: sinking hips back and using a straddle

So stop thinking that you can NEVER learn something. If it’s worth any kind of learning getting there will probably be hard, it will be challenging and sweaty and take time. But you will get there. Any goal takes commitment, dedication and quality effort. But if it’s that important to you, stick it out, after all, if it was easy everyone would do it.. and then it wouldn’t be special ๐Ÿ˜‰

Happy Dancing ๐Ÿ™‚

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