For the Love of Pole

We all have our own reasons for poling. Mine is a combination of loving to have a way to express myself, the ability to let dancing take over my mind and falling in love with the strength of pole.

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And I’m sure that most of us all want to keep improving, keep pushing our bodies further and further- which is awesome. However, everyone is so desperate to land the “movement of the moment” that I think most of the reasons we love pole are forgotten.

I read a blog the other day that stated “when did pole turn into a competition where you are supposed to take on moves you don’t like and won’t enjoy learning because you have a voice in your head saying “you should be able to do everything! Everyone else is learning it! If you can’t do it you are a failure! If you were any kind of decent person you would learn it and push yourself, I don’t care if you have other moves to perfect and a million other things to be working on, do THIS…

And I have to say it really hit home. The thing with pole dancing is that it is supposed to be for the dancer only. We have to remember that not every body type is meant to perform every move. And pushing ourselves into them will only result in pain.

Not practical for everyone

Not practical for everyone

And since when did you have to be able to do so much in order to be considered a good pole dancer? It seems that while pole evolves it’s standards for the general public have become unrealistic. We’re forgetting to implement progressions, learn to string moves together, forgetting the feeling of poling for no one else but ourselves. And suddenly, all that matters and what makes you qualified to be a good dancer is the fact that you can do an iron x (or any other move of the moment). And if you cannot do the move – regardless of whether you want to – you take away your personal worth as a dancer because you’re not willing to work for it.

It took me four months to get my handspring but I wanted it so badly!

It took me four months to get my handspring but I wanted it so badly!

I think we need to remember why we pole in the first place- for ourselves. Yes it feel awesome to land a trick you’ve been working towards the last few months. But only if you really wanted to learn it in the first place. Pole dancing should always be about your expression first. Go back and remember the reason you fell in love with pole. Remind yourself why it’s such an important part of your life. Then, form that into the best dance expression you possible can – do it, for the love of pole.