Fat-Shaming Has Exploded

In the last few weeks there has been a lot of drama in the pole community as well as the fitness community. I’ve been attempting to simply let both slide but it’s just eating at me… so here we go, rant time.

I’m sure you’ve all seen the photo below as it’s been everywhere. But here’s a quick recap nonetheless.

Texas Mom

Texas mom posted this photo with the hopes of inspiring others with the message that anyone can achieve their fitness goal. She is a mom of three who works full time and puts her health and fitness first.

And she has been labeled a “fat-shamer”. Why?

Because clearly the message of working hard to be fit is a direct attack at those who are – not incapable- but simply too lazy to put in the effort – let’s insert some sarcasm here. There is a beautiful women who has worked hard, prioritized her health and I can only assume sacrificed a bit of time, who must be the worst person in the world for wanting to better herself.

I’m not even going to go into detail about the fact that you cannot assume you know a story based on a picture. I’m sure people didn’t know that this lovely mom was bulimic, worked hard at owning two businesses and has had some pretty serious health scares. Would this have changed the opinions of others? Probably not. Why? Because once the jealousy bug sets in, all practicality goes out the window.


To me it’s amazing that people are taking the success of another person so personally. It is being claimed that us “fit & skinny folk” look down upon those – let me attempt to put a serious face on – “less fortunate”. You are not less fortunate, you simply have not worked hard enough.

3024330131_4401506539_4b758b9d9f_answer_1_xlargeAnd do larger people actually believe that you get “shamed” more than us fitness freaks? REALLY?! The amount of campaigns right now promoting “be comfortable in your own skin” and “it’s okay to be holding on to a few extra pounds” are ridiculous. Placing us fit people as the minority- now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t be comfortable in your own skin, simply that you cannot look down on others who have worked hard to get where they are.

Yes I do believe that you should love who you are, but let us not pretend that it is HEALTHY to be overweight. If your arteries could talk I’m sure they wouldn’t ask to be clogged with plaque from crappy foods. I’m sure your knees don’t enjoy the stress of carrying around those “few extra pounds”.


The fact that it is perfectly normal for the majority of people to have high blood pressure some sort of cardiovascular disease is ridiculous. It is PREVENTABLE.

And fit people pick on larger people do they? I find that alone entertaining as I’m pretty sure if I eat a salad people assume that I must be depriving myself.  Must have a hard life of dieting. And I’m skinny because I don’t get to “enjoy food”. And that’s not classified as being a bully?!

I am not skinny, I am not deprived and yes I bloody like getting up in the morning to do a workout, feeling great about myself, prepping meals and at the end of the day walking by a mirror and stopping because I LIKE what I see.


I do not enjoy people continuously assuming I have a “rough go” because I don’t eat crap. Last time I checked, I don’t sit outside McDonalds and attack everyone walking out with a big mac by saying things like “no wonder you’re overweight” or “wow your must love early onset of disease”. Why? Because it’s bloody rude.

We are all responsible for our own choices. Period. If you have a goal- no matter what it is- and you are actively working towards it, be proud. You are trying– no matter what your weight or size you should be happy that you are making an effort not to better yourself but for something you want- not anyone else.

What I am proud of is that, when questioned, this Texas mom gave a “non-apology”. She states: “What I WILL say is this. What you interpret is not MY fault. It’s yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head. I didn’t create them. You created them. So if you want to continue ‘hating’ this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life.”

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And she is right. It is not our “fault” we are thin/fit/healthy. We work damn hard for it. And I refuse to allow people who do not work as hard make me feel bad for it. If you are so “comfortable” in your own body, the image shouldn’t upset you- maybe it’s your mindset that needs to change and not the pride of someone who has worked hard.